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6.)Be Willing To Walk Away If She Behaves Badly.
You have to be the type of guy that is willing to walk away. The problem with this one, is that you cannot fake this, you have to actually be the guy who’s willing to do this. If you’re not, then this one is a mute point. Start considering what I mean by this.
Start thinking about where you would have to get to internally, and mentally, to be the guy that is completely unafraid at all of losing her.
Nothing is more interesting to a woman, than knowing that she’s dealing with a man who truly IS carefree. A guy that she truly has no control over, and there’s not a damn thing she can do about it. In any given relationship, the person that has more power will always be the one who cares less. The person that cares the least will ALWAYS yield more power in a relationship.
Women are not attracted to men who have less power or lower value than them, they never have been and they never will be. Women are hypergamous: they want a man who is above them, who has more power than than they do.
Again, being the guy that’s willing to walk away is not something you can fake, if you try to, she will find out no matter how hard you try to hide it.
What’s the fastest way to learn how become this guy? Listen to and read this book right here, it will show you how to start using your eyes for the 1st time, so you can see things for how they really are (and not the way we all have been lied to about).
7.) She Is A Guest In Your Reality, Not The Other Way Around.
You need to control the frame. You must always, always, always control the frame with a woman. This one is similar to the point right above this in that: you have to be the right kind of guy from the onset. In fact, not a single point on this list of ten points (in this article or the last one), are things that you can just ”switch into or out of”. You have to embody these these behaviors, you have to make them an integral part of who you really are as a person.
You are the prize, not her, and you have to truly believe that on a deep, primal level. When you truly believe this about yourself, she will always be the guest in your reality.
8.) Care About Your Appearance (Lift Weights & Dress Well).
There is lie that was spread for years in the PUA community, and that lie was that ”looks do not matter”. Let be clear on something: looks DO matter.
Part of the reason why they matter (but not the whole reason) is that when you look better, you feel better, and when you feel better, you’re more attractive. Emotions are contagious. Lifting weights, and getting into shape, will mold and shape your confidence without you even realizing it. Your body language and mannerisms will improve on their own without any conscious effort on your part.
When you walk around in a $1,200 a suit: 1.) your posture will be better and 2.) you’ll naturally act more confident knowing that you look damn good. With every double take that a passing woman gives you, your confidence will increase more and more. You don’t have to even go all the way and wear a suit, even just wearing a nice sports jacket will do this for you.
A man that has self-respect and pride, cares about his appearance. This is why you never see James Bond or Don Draper looking like shit, because their characters had self-respect. Also, every man should be lifting weights, period. There is no better or more beneficial form of exercise. Every girl likes a big, muscular guy.
Guys these days have a tendency to think girls don’t want men to be ”too big”. I’m here to tell you this is bullshit. Just because a woman ”says” she doesn’t like big men, doesn’t mean that matches up with what she responds to. What matters is what she actually responds to, NOT what she says. Girls like guys to be bigger than you probably realize.
Odds are, you’re not going to put in enough gym time, to have to worry about getting ”too big” anyway. That would require years and years of countless gym hours and sweat, which only .01% of guys will do anyway.
8.5) Make Yourself Taller.
If you’re under 6 feet, you should strongly consider making yourself taller with these shoe lifts. They are comfortable and will give you the edge you need to attract a wider array of women. I cannot recommend these enough for shorter guys.
9.) Have DRIVE, Care More About Making Money & Building Your Business Than You Do About Girls.
Drive and ambition is either something you have or you don’t. If you don’t, you probably need to take a good long hard look in the mirror. There is so much to be ambitious about in this day and age. Opportunity is everywhere, there has never been more of it at any point in history (and its only going to get better from here).
Here’s the problem with not caring about making money (or building your business), more than you do about girls: if you don’t, you’ll have too much attention to give the girls. Girls should be a nice compliment to your life, they should never be the focus. Don’t ever forget that.
Trust me they do not want to be the main focus of your life, even if they say they do.
10.)Never Be Afraid To Say ”NO”.
Women love a man that will tell them no. It shows you are the real deal, that you aren’t a faker, and they love having that reassurance. If you were a faker (and weren’t the desirable guy) then you would always be trying to appease her by attempting to please her. Just like the guy that is willing to walk away is irresistible, so is the guy that has no problem whatsoever telling her NO. They’re appealing to women for about the same reason.
If you’re a man of any level of self respect I shouldn’t have to beat this into you, you should already know this one by now, so I won’t belabor this point.
Bonus: Be A Bit Narcissistic.
People like narcissists, and people are drawn to narcissists. This might come as a shock to you, but this is the truth. Why else would Snap Chat or Instagram be so popular?
So this being said, women will be a bit more drawn to you as well. This is yet another point on here that most women will deny (big surprise there). Remember: always pay attention to what women do, or what they respond to (in favor of what they say). If you haven’t figured it out yet: women are irrational, what they say they want, and what they actually want are rarely the same thing.
The reason this is just a bonus point on here however, is because the narcissistic thing is more of human thing, than it is women thing. People are drawn to narcissists (even men are), so that’s the main point here. Its just something that’s useful to be aware of.
CONCLUSION:
Honestly, the best thing you can do, the absolute BEST thing you could ever do (and I’ve been studying this stuff for years, and have lived it), is to read the book I mentioned earlier: ”The Rational Male” by Rollo Tomassi.
Rollo Tomassi is one of the 3 R’s of the Red Pill (Roosh, Roissy, and Rollo). These are the guys that invented the red pill (seriously). The term ”The Red Pill” is being bastardized now and is starting to get used by everybody, for their own reasons. The real definition, the ORIGINAL definition of what it meant to take the Red Pill, started with these 3.
Check these guys out if you haven’t already. These 10 points you’ve read in these 2 articles, mostly came from my own personal experiences, and a couple of them were brought to my attention from reading these 3 guys.
You do not have to learn these lessons the hard way, like I did. That’s the reason I wrote this article: to save you years of pain, trial, and error. Re-read this article, come back to it often, and just remember: the more attached you get to a wanted outcome, the more miserable your life will become.
Learn to let go of your need for a specific outcome when it comes to women.
-Matt Mitchell
