1.) You Need To Have An Undying, Unbreakable, Unshakable Belief & Knowing Of Who You Are, & What You Want Out Of Life.
This is the number one reason why men between the ages of 34-42 have the most success with women, because they know who they are and what they want. They have life experience. I need you to understand something: you are more likely to have success with women during these years of your life (ages 34-42), than at any other point in your life. It is the peak of a man’s sexual market value. If you are unfamiliar with sexual market value (SMV), then read this article right here.
After 42, your SMV will start to go down a little more each year. Be happy that you are a man, a woman’s sexual market value starts dropping after the age of about 25 and then drastically drops off after the age of 29. Women don’t have as much time as men do, be incredibly grateful for that.
If you are not at these ages, or you’re still a ways away from them, then fear not, at least you have time on your side. Time is our most precious asset. Just understand that if you don’t know who you are, or what you want out of life, then this is going to show through in your words and behaviors around women. They will sense this, they will pick up on it, its only a matter of time.
You cannot afford to not have an unbreakable understanding of who you are, thanks to Tinder, women have more options nowadays than they used to, a quality girl is not going to sit around and wait for you to ”figure yourself out”. That’s what women do, not men. You need to already know who you are.
To get a better understanding of who you are, read every article on this site. These articles are all designed to help bring you closer to having an undying, core understanding of yourself.
2.)Be As Masculine As You Possibly Can.
The future is masculine. Get with the program man. There is no place for an un-masculine guy on this blog. I wont tolerate it. Hell even if your gay, you need to be masculine. Women, whether they will admit it or not, love masculine men. Even feminists respond better to masculine men, though they’ll never admit it. Here are a few things you can start doing right now that will help you become more masculine:
–Go on a carnivore diet.
–Consider TRT.
–Lift weights every day, real men lift.
–Get Your Finances In Order (It Will Subconsciously Increase Your Confidence).
–Focus On One Thing At A Time, Do NOT Multitask, Turn Off All Notifications and Group Text Messages.
–Be Your Own Biggest Fan, Smile At Yourself In The Mirror Daily And Tell Yourself: ”I cant wait until tomorrow, because I get better looking everyday…” Genuinely mean this and smile while saying it.
–Have Self-Respect.
Women respond to masculine men, so be masculine, and be damn proud of it.
3.) Be Competent (Know What To Do In Most Situations/Crisis’s).
Part of being masculine is knowing what to do in any given situation, at any given time. This may seem unfair, or like a tall order, but that’s only because there was flaw in your upbringing. Your baby boomer dad didn’t teach you all the things he should have taught you. This isn’t your fault, its his. The first step towards overcoming something, is just being aware of it.
Now you’re aware of it.
The next time you find yourself in a situation where you’re at any kind of a loss for what to do, think about that situation once you’re through it, and analyze where you went wrong, and how you can handle it better next time. Watch YouTube videos if you’re not sure how to fix something. Do whatever you have to do. But try to do it now, before you’re in the situation where she’s with you, and you look like an idiot.
If you don’t know how to change a tire, LEARN! You can learn so much just from going on the internet or YouTube nowadays. Women want and need you to know how to things, its your job as a man to know, and you should embrace that. This is a big reason why older men have an easier time with women, why older men are more attractive to women: because the older guys have more life experience. They’ve already run into all this stuff, and they’ve put systems in place to ensure occurrences go smoother when they’re in a bind. Think about it, it makes sense.
4.) Don’t Be Attached To Outcomes.
You have to learn to let go to a certain extent, of what you expect out a relationship with another person. I don’t even mean a romantic relationship, but any relationship, even a relationship you have with a friend or acquaintance. You have to see a relationship for what it probably is: something organic, that evolves on its own naturally, to become whatever its going to become, good or bad. You cannot decide beforehand what that will be, it will become whatever it is going to become.
This is where most guys go wrong, they think this is something they can force, or have control over. You don’t, no matter how much you may think you do. You can’t control other people in that way. People are going to be who they are going to be, and sometimes you’ll find yourself at odds with that result. You set yourself up for failure and massive disappointment, when you set expectations from the onset. When right out the gate, you have preconceived ideas for how she should act, how she should behave, and how trustworthy she is.
The problem, is that most guys will self-project qualities onto a woman, that were never there in the first place, and then get disappointed when she shows them who she was all along. They just chose not to see it.
5.)Be Selfish, Put Your Interests Before Hers.
This may sound counter-intuitive. That’s only because it goes against the feminine imperative you’ve been taught your whole life to abide by. Being selfish is an alpha characteristic, alpha men put themselves above all others almost 100% of the time. Women are sexually attracted to alpha men.
Most men are not alpha, despite popular believe among beta males. Most beta guys have this turned around, they think that by being considerate of her needs, they are setting themselves apart from the ”sea of jerks” out there. When in fact, the opposite is actually the case: being alpha is setting yourself apart from the sea of beta’s. The alpha male, is a selfish one. This doesn’t mean you should go out of your way to be a jerk, it simply means that you should never compromise yourself in an effort to lift her up.
She will punish you for it, that much my friend, I can promise you. Most (beta) guys will unfortunately have to learn this lesson the hard way. Pay attention to her actions, not her words. Her actions have 3-4X the weight that her words do. This does not necessarily mean her words are meaningless, but it does mean actions speak louder than words, especially when it comes to a woman.
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-Matt Mitchell
