1.) Your Value Relative To Hers Matters, And If Lower Will Eventually Expose Itself.
You have to understand (and accept) that in an exchange, one person’s value will always be higher than the other person’s value. It has been this way since the dawn of time. When dealing with an attractive woman, you must ALWAYS, be hyper aware of what your value is relative to hers. The minute it becomes clear to her, that her value exceeds yours, you’ve lost.
It may take her several minutes or even days, to realize that your value is lower, but if it is, you WILL expose yourself. You WILL be found out if you are not the real deal. Your value can only be lower than hers if you allow it to be. If in your own mind, you feel that your value is lower than hers, then it is, and this is what I’m talking about when I say that you’ll be found out.
You really do have to truly be a man of high value, or at the very least you have to truly believe you are the man of high value. Women have never been, in all of human history, attracted to men that have a lower value than them.
Important distinction here: when I say value, I do not mean status. Although the word status could be a substitute for the word value, there can be confusion around what the term ”status” actually means.
For example, some guys may confuse the meaning of ”status” with that of ”social status”. Social status is how many likes per post you get on facebook, how many instagram followers you have, or how much snap chat activity you’ve got. Although having these may help a girl to be attracted to you, that is just not the same thing I’m talking about here.
Having high value is something that is communicated subconsciously.
It’s something she picks up on. It is an unspoken message that is conveyed towards her. It can be hard to articulate it into words.
”Social status” is not hard to articulate into words, its very specific, you either have likes and IG followers, or you don’t. Social status can be very specifically measured, which value cannot be.
Value is felt however. Your value should be such that is cuts through the air like a sharp knife.
Value is something that is conveyed through various forms communication, even if only through body language alone.
2.) Porn Will Ruin Your Sex Life.
This is one I personally kind of ignored for a while. For whatever reason, the idea seemed a little far fetched to me. The older I get however, the more I’m starting to realize that this really is true. When I look back over my periods of dry-spells, they can pretty much all be directly linked to porn usage. You can choose to ignore this for years, like I did, or you can come to terms with the reality that porn is something you need to eradicate from your life. The sooner you stop using it, the sooner your sex life will start to improve.
Your results may not change right away, but just give it a little time.
Why not just give it a try. Give yourself a 30 day test and prove to yourself that you have self-control. It won’t do anything except help you. And if you’re going to do that, you might as well also limit masturbation to 1 day per week, which is a big part of it too. These changes will force you to take action and make those approaches while you’re out (due to the lack of ejaculation).
Porn also gives you unrealistic expectations of what sex is really like.
If this is an idea that’s new to you (porn having a direct negative effect on your sex life), you may feel an inner resistance towards it. That’s nomal if this is something you’ve never considered before. What you’re really feeling however, is fear. Fear that I may be right. And if I am right, what that will mean for you. What it will mean is you’ll have to lose something, something you’ve become accustomed to.
When you let go of things you have become accustomed to its never easy, but that’s part of life, that’s part of what it means to evolve. When you stop evolving in one of life’s main areas, its only a matter of time before the rest follows.
-Matt Mitchell
