Self-esteem, can be rooted back to your level of self respect.
You don’t have a high self esteem without first having a healthy level of self respect. So before you worry too much about why you have low self-esteem, perhaps you should first ask yourself why you have low (or no) self respect.
Self-Respect is funny thing.
Yes it is.
It shouldn’t be though.
The reason I say its a funny thing is because there are so many people out there who don’t posses any. I believe having self-respect is, more often than not, the reason why certain people attain their goals, and others do not.
People with self-respect hold themselves to a certain minimum standard, and that minimum standard tends to be higher than the minimum standard that people lacking in self respect set theirs.
A man with high self-respect possesses a winner’s mentality and mindset. He does not consider himself a victim of circumstance. There is no expectation that anything will be handed to him. He knows that nothing will happen unless he gets his ass out there and makes it happen.
A winner’s mentality and self-respect tend to go hand in hand. If you posses a winner’s mentality, but lack in the area of self respect, there may still be hope for you yet. Although not too common, I have known, and do actually know men that fall in this category.
How could someone have a winner’s mentality but also lack in having enough self respect?
Here’s how:
The biggest problem with people that lack self-respect, is that they don’t know they lack self-respect. I know it, others know it, but that doesn’t mean that they can readily see it on themselves. Its not ”all or nothing” either, you don’t have to be completely void of respect to be one of these guys I’m talking about here. There are handful of people I know in my life, that have a gaping, noticeable gap of self respect inside of themselves.
And the problem with this is that it will prevent them from being the person they have the potential to be.
Reaching and realizing one’s true potential is extremely important.
To not do this, or to not strive for your full potential, is selfish and is a disservice to the world.
The point I’m trying to drive home for you here is this: start becoming aware of everything I’m talking about here. Get an AWARENESS of it. Without a basic awareness of something, we have nothing, we don’t even know it exists.
Then consider for a moment: Could I be one of these people he’s talking about? Really give this careful thought, because it might be a long time before you have an opportunity to ponder over this again.
Remember what I said: The biggest problem with people that lack self-respect, is that they don’t know they lack self-respect.
An easy, quick solution is to have a close friend read this article, and then ask them:
”Be honest with me, does this article make you think of me? Am I lacking in self-respect? Am I deficient in any other area of my life that you think might be directly related to my personal lack of self-respect? In what area am I lacking in that you think I might be completely oblivious to?”
The article will make them think about themselves as well.
This whole idea (article) isn’t something I’ve always been hyper focused on or aware of. Only for about the last year or so. I’ve been noticing things that have made me think. This idea is a very similar line of thought that I wrote about in a previous article.
For many people out there, all hope is lost I’m sorry to say. There simply are some people that are so far gone that they’ll never be able to attain any meaningful level of self-respect, ever again.
Luckily for you, you’ve found this article (and this blog).
Some Questions To Consider On Self-Respect:
What are you willing to put up with?
Are you NOT willing to put up with certain things?
What are you willing to accept?
Would you ever settle for less than you capable of, and if so why?
Why are you even in a position (in the first place) that you’re having to consider a compromise?
These are just some questions, the first ones I that thought of. There are more, I challenge you to see how many more you can come up with.
They are questions to seriously consider. If you’re not getting the things you want out of life, could it be because you have below par self respect?
It’s a brand new day, consider raising the expectations you have of yourself.
-Matt Mitchell
