This is my fourth article on the topic of the red pill, to read the first one, you can go here.
The topic of this article, could be viewed as a seamless transition out of the points covered in that first one. So this is a follow up to that article (of sorts).
There are 5 realizations you are going to come to, sooner or later, about women once you’ve taken the red pill. You need to be aware of these, for the sake of your own sanity, happiness, fulfillment, and well-being.
You might be one of those people that has to learn things the hard way. I am writing this in the hopes that I can save you from that fate however.
Below are the inevitable 5 realizations I am referring to.
|Higher sex drive, but cheat equally (or less) than women||Lower sex drive, but experience stronger orgasms. Cheat equally as much (or more) than men.|
|Have been ''shamed'' by society to think it's bad multiple women non-exclusively.||A woman's sexual strategy is weighing different men against each other & choosing the best option.|
|Love women idealistically.||Love men opportunistically.|
|Care about relationship equity. Have been taught to ''do what's right''||Hypergamy & Solipsism doesn't care about equity. Have been taught ''do what's right for you''|
|Much less prone to boredom once in a relationship.||Much MORE prone to boredom once in a relationship.|
Let jump right in:
Red Pill Truth #1: Women Cheat At Least As Much As Men Do (& Often More):
This is one of the biggest lies society has programmed us to believe. The lie is: that men are the pigs, and men are the ones out cheating on their women. This is just a bold faced lie. A man wouldn’t even be able to cheat, without another woman there to help him carry out it out.
There will always to be two parties partaking in the act of sex. The media, movies, TV, and social media, have imposed this shaming tactic on men for years now. This narrative they want you to believe is that men are the only (or the primary ones) who cheat.
To that I say: WAKE UP!
I’m not saying it never happens that it’s the man, but its nowhere even close to as often as they have you believing. When divorce papers get served, or when he discovers her in the act, he is often the one getting completely blindsided. Unfortunately this is how the story often goes.
”I just can’t believe she did this to me!”
There’s a reason men end up having to feel this, and that reason is this:
Our feminine primary social order had you convinced she was incapable of cheating. I got news for you: she never was incapable of cheating, you just allowed your blue-pill conditioning let you get ignorant, comfortable, and complacent.
You can never fully allow these beliefs to penetrate your subconscious. Yet that’s exactly what happens to most men, and that is why they are caught off guard.
Our feminine primary social order will have you believe that its never the woman cheating on the man, but instead is the other way around.
Red Pill Truth #2: Contrary To What You’ve Been Led To Believe: Women Spin Plates, More Than Men Do:
Spinning plates means to date multiple people at once.
Always remember this: Women date multiple men simultaneously, more often than men date multiple women simultaneously.
I remember when I was in my mid 20’s, when all I wanted to do was spin plates. This was well before I ever discovered the red pill, the rationale male, or Rollo Tomassi’s advice to spin plates. It was something I just naturally felt inclined to do as a man. I was very in tune with the desire.
By that I mean I was very consciously aware of my desires to date non-exclusively. I would even admit it to my friends.
Juggling multiple women, was something I wanted to do. It was a high quality problem I wanted to have. I had no interest in committing to one woman. It was only over time, through the social pressure that I would feel from family and society, that this changed for me.
In my blue-pilled conditioning, this got to a point where I wanted more to avoid these common social pressures, than I wanted to continue trying to cultivate my harem. This turned out to only be a ”phase” I had to get through. I ended up coming full circle back into the desire to remain uncommitted.
One thing did I feel however, was an internal ”guilt” for wanting to juggle multiple women.
I could never understand fully, why I felt this guilt. How such a natural inner desire to be with multiple women, could simultaneously produce so much guilt at the same time. I had always felt divided internally over this.
It ended up dawning on me, that the reason I felt this way was because it was a societal shaming tactic. It has been programmed into society, to discourage men in general from dating non-exclusively, and I was beginning to realize this.
It doesn’t serve the feminine imperative.
The men who did this on TV shows & in movies, were portrayed to be unstable, alcoholic, immature, and juvenile.
Now while I actually do agree, that a whole lifetime of this behavior, is to a degree somewhat degenerate, what men need to understand is that: women live this lifestyle even more than men do.
Women just don’t flaunt it the way that men do. The only reason for that is because they don’t want to be labeled as ”sluts”. Surely you know by now what a social stigma that is for women. You can see how this stigma could cause a woman to remain ”quiet” about the number of men she’s dating.
This is also the very reason why this is a red pill truth to begin with, because its not immediately obvious to you. On top of this, society will never draw attention the fact that women spin plates more than men do. Why would they? Again: it doesn’t serve the feminine imperative.
Wake up and start paying attention. You will notice that what I’m saying here is true: women are the real plate spinners, not men.
Red Pill Truth #3: Unlike Men, Women Love Opportunistically (They’ll Never Love You In The Way Men Want Them To Or Think They Should).
This is one that most men will just never understand.
One of the main reasons for this is because of the lie that movies and TV fed men while they were growing up. Movies and TV gave men the misconception that love is the same for women, as it is for them.
The misconception that their love is completely romantic.
This is not the case. This often is one of the very 1st red pill truths men end up discovering about women. Many men come to learn, usually through first hand experience, that women do not love them back in the same way they love her.
Often the misunderstanding of this (along with the other points on this list) can lead to heartbreak.
Anthony Bourdain immediate comes to mind.
This lie has been so deeply programmed into our culture that even women believe the lie.
Here’s the truth: women love you based on what you can offer them. On what you can do for them. They want a man that can and will bring them up a peg or two in some way. Usually this will come down to money, and financial well-being, but it could also be social status.
Once you reach a point where you are no longer offering her value, it is not going to take long before she realizes it. And at that point: all bets are off. The woman will come up with all sorts of excuses and lies about why their relationship with you is no longer working. She’ll justify it in her mind 6 ways from Tuesday.
Most of the time, they don’t even realize they are doing this.
The bottom line: when you first get involved with a woman in a relationship, always be very cognizant of what the qualities are about you, that are drawing her into you.
What are you displaying or offering her that is attracting her and adding value to her life?
Once you’ve determined what these are, make sure you are continually displaying and offering this value. If you care about the relationship lasting that is.
Red Pill Truth #4: Relationship ”Equity” Is Not A Concern For Women.
A more accurate way of saying this, is that relationship equity is not a concern for hypergamy. As I mentioned in my other article: women are dominated by their hypergamous nature.
It does not matter if you up-rooted your life to go live with her in a different state.
It does not matter, if you’re a great father.
It does not matter, how supportive you have been of her decisions or her views.
It does not matter, if you exchanged vows.
It does not matter, how you adopted the children she had with another man.
It does not matter, if you feel blindsided, surprised, or shell-shocked at her sudden, out-of-nowhere change of heart.
If a woman discovers she’s leaving potential on the table, by staying with you in favor of monkey-branching up to a better deal, than its you she’ll soon be leaving behind. Just don’t be surprised. I realize this is easier said than done, but always remember it is YOU who puts yourself in this precarious position in the first place.
ALWAYS remember this truth about women:
”A woman never belongs to you, it’s just your turn.”
Never get too comfortable in a relationship, even if its one you’ve been in for 20 plus years. We’ve all heard those stories of men, who’s wives left them after 35 years of marriage. This is an example of what I’m describing here, in action.
Red Pill Truth #5: Women Get Bored, Faster & Easier Than Men Do In Relationships.
As a man, you’re always going to have to have an awareness around how, for lack of a better word ”entertained”, your girlfriend or wife is in the relationship. It isn’t just hypergamy you’re dealing with (as if that weren’t enough), its their boredom and excitement towards the relationship they have with you.
Always remember this: predictability is the opposite of excitement, and it is very boring for women. This can be tough for a lot of men, because a man’s nature likes structure, regimen, and consistency. All of which can easily translate over into predictable behavior.
One thing you need to internalize (and I mean really internalize), is that you should never let a woman think she’s figured you out. You need to always keep her guessing, keep her wondering, and keep her scratching her head (while simultaneously offering value at the same time).
That’s a big one right there: a lot of men, in an effort to remain unpredictable, will compromise on the value they’re offering the woman. This ends up backfiring on them. In other words: they’ll take two steps backward in the ”value” offering department but only one step forward in the ”unpredictability” category.
Be creative and constantly thinking of ways that you can come off as unpredictable to your woman, but be careful not to do it at the expensive of your value.
Unpredictability IS important however.
Its important even with just a woman you’re dating. In the very early stages of your time spent with a new woman, its much easier to do this, because unpredictability is a naturally occurring process in the early stages.
What I mean by this is she knows nothing (or very little) about you in the early stages, therefore she’s naturally going to find you a bit unpredictable.
Many man lose ground with their woman over the years, because this unpredictable frame becomes harder and harder for them to maintain (as she gets to know them more).
This is another reason why women leave men after years and years of marriage. Their man has become so predictable they feel like one more day with him will drive them absolutely insane.
All the spark and fire that was once there, is now long dead and gone.
After reading these five points here, I can see how it could be very easy for a man to almost think to himself: as far as intimate relationships with women are concerned, the juice is just not even worth the squeeze.
To that, I have a few things to say.
First of all, I agree with you to a extent: women are difficult, and frankly, can often be a pain in the ass. I DO see how you could arrive at that conclusion after reading this article, and knowing deep down, that what I’ve outlined here is the truth. Perhaps you even just feel this from your first hand first hand experience. One thing you need to realize however, is that most of the reason you feel that way, is because:
This information is NEW to you.
Maybe its all knowledge you always sort of felt to be the truth (in the back of your mind), but the difference now is that you’re consciously becoming aware of and acknowledging it. And that my friend, is a critical distinction.
If you had become red pill aware 15-20 years ago, you would have already gone through the 7 stages of grief, and that’s what I’m getting at here.. You would have already emotionally internalized all of this. You would be past your ”rage” phase, which right now you might be right in the middle of.
As you grow and get a little older, you’ll realize this is just how women are. Instead of being enraged by them, you will accept these truths about women. Right now this news is probably all still somewhat shocking to you. It is entirely normal to feel angry. To feel like you’ve been sold a bad bag of goods (because you have).
Just know that this anger and shock is just a phase, and that you can get past it (although some guys don’t unfortunately).
Do not be one of those guys that doesn’t get past this phase. Do not go MGTOW. Let me reiterate: women have ALWAYS been this way. Since the dawn of time they have been this way. Be thankful you now have eyes that can see clearly.
You were once blind but now you see.
Stay tuned for my future article, on how to overcome and get past ”red pill rage”, which is coming soon.