Nofap benefits: my 30 day challenge all started with an iron-clad decision. A couple of months ago (from the time of this writing) decided I was going to do this, once and for all.
Come hell or high water, I was going to be able to acknowledge (even if only to myself), that I did this.
For those of you who are unclear: No fap = no masturbating.
This was something I’d been turning over in my head, and even attempting (and failing at) for the last couple years.
One day a couple months ago (on December 22nd, 2019 actually), I just suddenly decided: that’s it, I’m not doing this anymore.
Looking back on this, I’ve wondered what it was that finally pushed me over the edge and made me just ”suddenly decide” this that day. I believe it was a combination of 2-3 other things that were happening in my life at that time, that I was unhappy about.
One of them was my drinking, which I talk about in-depth in this article right here. At that point in time (late last year), I had been drinking a lot. There were several reasons for this, which I won’t go into in this article. Many of these reasons I discussed in that article I just linked to however.
This 30 day no fapping challenge, started right before I embarked on my 30 days of no drinking.
There were a couple of things I was going through at the time, that had been contributing to my general unhappiness. So as a result I drank more (not a good solution), and as a result of that my self-control got pretty out of whack.
I’m the type of person that likes to be in control of my life, and in control of myself. If you know anything about me, or about Mission Life Motion, then you now this already.
At that time, I was still struggling to figure a few things out.
I still knew in general (overall), that things were ultimately heading in the right direction for me, but it was these experiences I was going through, that created a drive inside of me for a life change.
Something needed to change. I needed to do something positive for my life. I didn’t know what yet, but I knew I needed to do something, and fast, or else I would start losing even more control than I’d already lost.
Then it clicked. It hit me one night like a brick wall. I laid in bed after having just whacked off, and I thought to myself: ”That’s it, I know what I need to do now.”
I needed to quit fapping, for at least 30 days.
So I did, and in fact: I went 40 days. I’m currently back on this again (no fapping). I actually wanted to go even longer than 40 days, because of the immense benefits I was getting.
While I was going through these 40 days, it was a very memorable and powerful experience for me. So much so, that I felt I needed to write a whole article, and do a video on it.
The first 14 days of this experience, gave me the confidence I needed to decide I was going to stop drinking as well, and start that 30 day challenge.
But this 30 days of no fapping, is what propelled me, and gave me the confidence and momentum I needed to start making brave and bold decisions, about what I was and wasn’t willing to tolerate anymore.
In the rest of this article, I will document what my experience was. Most of this article I actually wrote while I was undertaking this. So as you read through this, keep that in mind. All of what you’re about to read were thoughts that were entering my head on different days I was going through this.
I don’t know that you guys realize this: but you have within your control, the ability to SIGNIFICANTLY improve and change your life. You can achieve this by giving up your masturbation habit. By giving up masturbation, and therefore also giving up the garbage that porn is.
Watching porn has actually become undesirable to me since going through this experiment. I honestly have no desire, to ever watch it again. I cannot explain why I just don’t feel the need anymore.
The itch to watch porn is now gone.
Without further udo, let’s begin.
Nofap Benefits: the first 7-14 days:
These were the hardest, especially the first 7. There were times when it was almost unbearable. These moments came at night when I lied there in bed, or early in the morning when I got a morning wood.
To be honest, I don’t remember much from these initial 7-14 days. All I remember was that it was unbearable at times. I just kept reminding myself that giving in to my temptation, wasn’t going to make me feel better.
I told myself this over and over and over again.
Then, as I got into Days 7-10 I started to notice I felt….different.
The first, and most powerful realization I had, was that women were starting to notice me more. And when I say more, I mean A LOT MORE.
I’ll talk more about this later in the article, but this was a bit mind-blowing to me. I couldn’t figure this out at first. But the more I thought about it, the more I started to realize why this was. I was starting to feel more in control of myself, and more powerful.
I carried myself with more confidence, swagger, decisiveness, and poise.
Things were starting to have less of an effect on me. I started to feel incredible. I started to feel like nothing could penetrate me. As I got deeper into the month, these feelings grew stronger and stronger, and stronger.
I know this sounds a bit crazy, but there really is no other way to describe how I felt: I literally felt like I was unstoppable. Feeling like you’re in control, is a beautiful feeling.
It really is.
When you feel in control, you will experience FAR less anxiety, if any at all.
I started to feel unstoppable (like I was on drugs or something).
And women were noticing me more and more.
This got to the point, where I became accustomed to it. I knew before I left my place every day that when I went out that day, women were going to stare me. I’d probably catch 2 or 3 of them doing it, and they’d quickly look away.
This was becoming par for the course by this point. I realize this sounds arrogant, but probably 70-80% of this I firmly believe had to do with my no fapping. It’s not like my looks suddenly changed after I stopped jerking off, I didn’t suddenly just become ”more handsome”.
I looked the exact same as I did when I whacking off.
With this said: I think you will notice that women will notice you more as well, regardless of how you currently look. You may not experience all this exactly the way I did, but you’ll definitely notice an increase in attention from women.
By days 16-20 I started noticing the following changes:
By this point, I noticed it was starting to get easier to resist the urge. Some guys will tell you it only takes 7-10 days. For me, it took longer than this. Maybe this was because my testosterone levels are higher than the average guy (or at least they were at the time of this experiment).
Sure the first 7-10 days were definitely harder (no pun intended), but it was still difficult for up through about day 15-16.
Porn wasn’t as much as an issue for me, as the actual fapping itself was.
I can use the memories of all the many sexual experiences I’ve had, as my own mental ”porn movie” instead. The part that was the hardest for me, was on Day 10.
The reason being that I had sex that morning.
This was on New Years morning at about 7:30 am in the morning.
There was a girl I’d met and had been partying with the night before, that apparently had taken a bit of a shine to me. That, or she just liked older guys, or was just horny. She came over (back over) to my friend’s apartment where I had been staying, and we had sex on my friend’s rug on the floor.
Usually after a sexual encounter, I masturbate to the thought of it for a few days afterward. This time I had to resist that urge, and let me tell you guys, that was NOT easy.
This was an important experience however because it started to teach me that I had what it took, to resist my inner urges, even very strong ones like with this incident.
By Day 24, I started noticing & experiencing:
–More Self-Control (over everything)
–A sense of peace and calmness.
–I was happier and in a better mood day to day, for example: I’d catch myself smiling to myself for no reason at all. Things I would be listening to, like podcasts for example, would make me smile or laugh much easier (I wasn’t so ”in my head” all the time, which can only mean I was less stressed).
–I felt better about myself, I felt like I had more control over my base desires (ALL my desires). Like I was truly the one in charge, not just my body or my impulsive urges all the time.
–My mind/body connection started to get better. Although it still wasn’t quite where I wanted it to be just yet, it was heading in the right direction finally.
–I felt MUCH more confident. It was able to look people in the eye and always hold the eye contact without looking away first. I was also less ”jumpy”, and was less phased by things happening in the environment around me.
–The attention from women, more so than anything else on this list, was without a doubt, the most noticeable thing for me. Women would just gawk at me basically.
Many times I’d even catch them doing it, and they’d quickly look away.
Day 27 (taken from my journal):
”Today I felt more like a Lion. When a lion walks around, he isn’t phased very much by things happening in the environment around him, he just goes about his business and already knows none of the other animals are going to mess with him.”
Other more recent changes I’m now noticing:
–I can feel and see an improvement in my posture.
–I have FAR less social anxiety. If somebody tries to fuck with me now, all it will take is one look into my eyes and they’ll back down immediately. They’ll know the minute they look into my eyes, that I am not backing down, that I’m not looking away first, and that I am not to be fucked with.
–I’ve been sleeping better (like a baby).
–Lately I have felt a new sense of ”hope” (which I believe has mostly derived from my ability to adhere to something I knew wouldn’t be easy). I’m more optimistic about my future. I have this feeling now that I will truly the one who will shape my future, I will not be victim of circumstance. My future will become whatever I want it to be.
–I have noticed a drastically sharp lift in energy (and mood).
–My responses to people are quicker and require less effort (to think of a response)
–My workouts in the gym have gotten (A LOT) better.
–I had a much better intuition and spontaneous understanding of things.
–I’m no longer feel like a ”slave” to my sexual desires, I now see attractive images of scantily clad girls and I feel healthier about it, whereas before I felt strange feeling a dread (I knew later that day I would succumb to the temptation to jerk off to that image).
”I used to literally be a slave to my desires before, now my desires are a slave to me.”
-Me (on Day 27)
When I say I’d feel healthier about scantily clad at women (and women in general), I mean that in sort of strange way where: now I look at the girl’s as more of creature’s of beauty, works of art, one’s that are inspiring and motivating.
In other words: I feel positive feelings seeing attractive women, instead of negative ones. Before I’d only see her as an object and I’d feel this strange sense of negativity. It’s like there was this underlying feeling inside of me that I somehow felt I couldn’t have her (when I still whacking off).
I would only feel this way by the way with the extremely attractive girls. After I stopped jacking off though, I’d see girls like this walk past me, and I no longer feel that way.
I no longer feel like they are ”unattainable”. This is because of what I just said: I saw them as more human and normal, rather than as objects of desire that I was unconsciously pedestalizing. Now I knew beyond any doubt, that I that could have them if I wanted them (if they were available). Not only that. but I was beginning to tell that most of them wanted me too.
And if they didn’t before, they did now, at least that how it was beginning to feel for me.
I knew that when that right opportunity presented itself with an extremely attractive girl, that I could take it and not feel the even the least bit nervous about it. Any approach anxiety I used to have, at this point was now basically gone.
–I do not feel as jealous or envious of other men as I did when I was fapping. Not that I felt much of this before, but apparently I felt this more than I’d realized. Because when my fapping stopped, the frequency of my envious or jealous feelings noticeably dropped.
–More emotional control.
-(Noted: 01/18/20 @ 8:00pm)
Nofap Benefits: by Day 30 (taken from my journal):
1.) ”I’m starting to notice my behavior is changing. I’m starting to exude more social confidence, I give less of a shit about how I’m coming across to people. I’ll say and/or do things that make me think to myself a minute later: ”Was that just me?”
”It’s mostly things I’ll say (and things I DON’T say anymore), and my body language and mannerisms. Today for example: somebody asked me a question and I ignored the question for a second, made a comment about a cake sitting on the desk, and I said ”That looks delicious” then proceeded to answer her question.
A month ago when I was still fapping, I would’ve dutifully answered her question right away. Now its like I was answering questions when I felt like answering them. This is exactly what I’m trying to get at here: its little things like this that I’ve noticed have changed.” -(Noted: 01/21/20 @ 6:44pm)
And this had ALL just been simply because I stopped masturbating.
You wouldn’t think that just stopping something like whacking off, would completely start to change your personality. Yet that is exactly what seems to be happening to me.
Once again, without a doubt in mind whatsoever, the most noticeable side effect has been more attention from women.
By Day 30, this was even more noticeable than it was on Day 20.
I’m starting to wonder what comes next, are girls just going to start dropping their pants when I walk by? I’m almost not even exaggerating here, this is crazy….
I’ve never been noticed by women so much in my entire life. The attention I’ve been getting from them has been even better than when I was taking exogenous testosterone.
It’s like you have this new masculine energy to yourself, that women (apparently) find irresistible.
I just feel completely in control of myself. I still like women of course, but I felt like I am the one in control now (not my sex drive anymore). Before I quit fapping, my sex drive was in control, I wasn’t. It’s not just my sex drive either, it’s also the women.
Just like I have more control over my sex drive, with the girls: I could either take them or leave them now (even the 9’s/10’s).
Now when hearing this, you might think this sounds counterproductive.
Actually however it’s the opposite: because these women yield no power over me anymore. When the time comes that I want to get laid, I’ll go out laid (and with this kind of attention, it won’t come with too much effort). The point is: I’ll be doing this more on my own terms now.
And if you don’t think women won’t subconsciously pick up on this, think again my friend. They most definitely WILL pick up on it. So this has all been an interesting experience so far, to say the least.
If you take nothing else from this article, at least take this one part: just give this a try. Just give it a try to 1 month, and see how you feel.
Yes at first it’s going to be tough, but once you get past that initial 7-15 days, it will become much easier. In fact, I’d venture to guess that you’ll feel the same way I did: you’ll feel so good, you’ll feel such an abundant improvement, that you won’t want to stop. You’ll want to keep this all going.
CONCLUSION:
Attracting women may not be what your primary aim is, but even if it isn’t: why wouldn’t you want to feel powerful, confident and in completely in control of yourself?
What man wouldn’t want that for themselves?
As crazy as all this sounds, until you test this out for yourself, you have no room to talk. I’ve never felt this masculine in my entire life. Let me repeat that: I have NEVER felt this masculine in my entire life. Not even when I was shooting 300 mgs. a week of testosterone into my ass.
Seriously, not even then. I GUARANTEE you, you will not regret trying this for 30 days.
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This article warrants no more of a conclusion than this. I think you know now what you need to do.
Godspeed my friend, your life will never be the same again.
(To learn more, go here and read the experiences other men have had doing this: NoFap.com)
-Matt Mitchell
