In my younger years, I struggled with women. I wasn’t one of these guys that was born a natural. Some men are born as naturals, in my opinion.
Some men out there, were just born with the ability to be charismatic and naturally attractive to women. I have always held this belief. Several of you reading this may disagree with me on that, and that’s fine. Through my life experiences however, this has been my firsthand experience and observation.
I was not born one of these guys. Maybe you weren’t either. I had my own shortcomings that I had to learn to overcome, some of which I’ll detail below.
One thing I always did however, is I always took full responsibility for my personal shortcomings. I did not possess this ”victim” mentality that a lot of men nowadays have. A victim mentality that’s not unlike what you see feminists possessing.
As far as what I personally struggled with, my shortcomings as a younger man could be summed up as follows:
-At my core: I did not believe in myself. I was unaware of my sexual market value. My SMV was higher than I realized it was at the time (although not as high as it is now)
-Took myself too seriously. I could not be playful or cocky enough around women. This was the smallest issue on the list but was still a problem nevertheless.
-In my younger years, I had a horrible sense of fashion and style.
-At certain points, I was heavier and more overweight than I should have been for my age and height.
-I was then, just like I am now, a natural introvert. There is nothing wrong with being an introvert, however, when combined with other points here on this list, especially the first one, the negative aspects of being introverted are more amplified to other people.
These were the main issues I struggled with as a younger man.
These were the ones that just came to mind as I write this. Point is: I was aware of what my shortcomings were. Although hindsight is 20/20, and these points are much clearer to me now, then they were then, I was still aware that my struggles with women had to do with me, not because of society, or because of the ”mass conspiracy against men”.
I DO believe there are forces at play, high up in society, that have an agenda to continue elevating women at the expense of men. However, I in no way advocate for or sympathize with men who use what’s going on culturally, as the excuse as to why they aren’t getting laid.
I’m all about personal accountability and responsibility. And if you have a problem with that, then get the fuck off my blog, and go bang a doll.
This blog isn’t for losers to congregate too and complain about why they aren’t getting laid. That’s on you pal.
On money, looks, and status:
Men who complain that game is dead or is ”archaic”, have this black pill (AKA loser pill) idea in their heads. They think all that matters when it comes to attracting women is how much money, or social status a man has, or how good looking he is. Of course, these three DO play a part, and of course they help, but to think that these 3 factors are all that matter, is a loser’s mentality. It’s ultimately just the result of an incel trying to ”make sense of his situation”.
There are plenty, plenty of men out there that possess these qualities, that are still getting cheated on. Consider these real-life examples: Anthony Bourdain, Jeff Bezos, and Elon Musk.
Jeff Bezos’s wife divorce-raped him and took millions from him, thus making her the richest woman in the world.
Elon Musk has apparently not had great success with the women in his life, which he’s been vocal about.
Anthony Bourdain offed himself from oneitis over a promiscuous girl that was running around on him behind his back.
Then there are a lot of guys out there, with hardly any money, that are smashing 8’s, 9’s, and 10’s. And no not all of these men are physically attractive.
Point is: Some guys have boatloads of money, but are still getting run around on, and cheated on. These men have been disrespected, and disrespect like this and a lack of game, commonly go hand in hand.
Despite what many people might believe, women do not want to date and sleep around with several men at once. That is very important, so let me repeat it: women DO NOT want to sleep around with multiple men.
A woman will only start sleeping around with multiple men when her hypergamy dictates that she has to.
It will only dictate this of her, when she feels unsure as to whether she’s with that highest value male. This is where the game skill comes in. Possessing game is having the ability to prevent (or at least delay) a woman from acting on her hypergamy.
If a man has real game, the woman he’s with will already feel like she is with the high-value male. She won’t be seeking other men to fill this need in her life. The man with game IS the man she’s cheating on her current boyfriend with. He is not the one that’s getting cheated on.
If he IS the one getting cheated on, then he’s allowed his game to start slipping.
The guys who have these 3 qualities that don’t get cheated on, are the ones who possess solid game. This is why even when in a relationship, you should never stop learning or honing your game. You should never stop consuming red pill content.
Humans (including women) are animals by nature. It’s hardwired into them to desire a dominant male that knows what he’s doing. Therefore: all you have to do is KNOW what you’re doing (game).
”All you have to do is know what you’re doing” may sound unspecific, but guys learning game is not as hard as it sounds. It’s not as hard as you’re making it out to be in your head. Women are figure-out-able. Men like Rollo Tomassi, Roosh, and Alan Roger Currie, have figured them out. Read their content and within 1-2 years (max) you’ll likely know everything you need to know about women.
They each have different and unique perspectives by the way, which is helpful.
Honorable mention also has to go out to the 3rd R of the manosphere ”Roissy” (Chateau Heartiste). Roissy’s content is very hard to find as a lot of it has been deplatformed from Google. If you look hard enough you can still find it archived somewhere.
At the bottom of this article, I’ll give you my top 6 recommendations on how to learn game effectively. Finish reading this article first however, as it will give you the context with which to think about game with women in your life going forward.
Now in the defense of the black pill view: today’s women DO require air-tight game (because of the ”global” sexual marketplace that we’re now living in), however women are still animals by nature, so the attraction triggers that women have will never be obsolete.
Is it harder today to attract women then it was 40 years ago? Of course it is. But that by no means means that it’s impossible or is an obsolete practice.
Every generation has its unique challenges that it faces.
Here is a fact of life my friends: things evolve. Over time, certain aspects of life will evolve. Things will change, nothing is permanent.
When this happens in life: YOU have to evolve with the changes.
This is survival of the fittest and natural selection.
Just like the PUA Mystery used to say: ”Nature, will unapologetically weed your genes out of existence if you do not evolve when its time to evolve.”
The men who aren’t sitting around whining about how tough things have gotten, are the one’s out taking action. They’re doing what the incels, MGTOW, and black pill losers are not doing.
They’re holding themselves accountable for their shortcomings and are working every day, to improve their current situation in life.
There has also never in all of history, been more free content and resources available to help men in this area, than right now.
That’s worth repeating: there have never been more resources, and more free knowledge available to men (in human history) than there is right now.
This is all thanks to the internet. Technology, of course, IS a double-edged sword, which is not that surprising if you think about it. In a lot of ways, technology has made things more difficult (facilitating hypergamy for example). However as long as you’re a man that possesses self-accountability, then ultimately you’ll be just fine.
Possessing self-accountability is hard. This is exactly why there are groups of men out there in the first place, that like to sit around and bitch about women and not getting laid. They like to ”point and sputter”. Blaming everyone and everything but the person staring right back at them in the mirror.
These men do what’s easy. They bitch, whine, and complain, instead of what’s hard: which is daily self-progress (and work of themselves).
Here’s the bottom line here: the men that are still getting laid, learned how to evolve. The men that aren’t getting laid, aren’t in large part because they aren’t evolving. Examples include: incels, black pilled ”men” and MGTOW’S.
Here’s the deal guys:
Men who claim ”game is dead”, and ”all hope for men is lost in the sexual marketplace”, are LOSERS.
Plain and fucking simple, these men have made the personal decision to be losers, PERIOD.
These men make their necessity a virtue, by claiming they’re on the cutting edge of some new, profound realization regarding the sexual marketplace. They do not want to accept responsibility for their shortcomings. In other words: they do not want to take or accept responsibility for why women do not find them attractive.
What girls respond to has not changed, and will never change. We are animals. Our bodies are made up of ultra-complex chemicals and processes that are designed to ensure our survival.
Women are not these untouchable, ”God-like creatures”. One of the reasons certain men have so much trouble with women is because they pedestalize them in this way. Your blue-pill conditioning and upbringing taught you to do this by the way, to ”pedestalize” women.
”When you understand female nature, it’s impossible to pedestalize women.”
-Carl (from BlackLabelLogic.com)
That’s a whole different conversation unto itself, and we don’t have the time to go into that right now, but just understand the pedestalization of women by men right now is at an all-time high. This is due to a lack of understanding of female nature. A lack of understanding red pill awareness, and of inter-sexual dynamics between men and women.
Pedestlization of women, and a lack of game are very parallel to each other. One could make a strong argument that having ”game”, is equivalent to possessing a deep understanding of female nature. That game is an ability to remove women off this pedestal (that society has brought you up to believe they belong on).
They don’t belong up there guys, and once you understand women, you’ll finally realize that.
Game is the application of knowledge. Game is the application of the understanding of female nature.
Another quick point here: Game matters on the street, in coffee shops, in malls, and in the bars and clubs. Game does not take place online, on Tinder, or social media. This is an idea that millennial men need to get out of their heads.
Online, you are operating within a woman’s frame, whether you realize it or not. Tinder is a woman’s playground, not a man’s. Online, you have a very limited amount of control. As a man, control is something you need to possess when it comes to game.
3 more reasons why game is not dead (and will never be dead):
1.) Women want and need to be lead. If you can lead them, they will follow you.
2.) Women are attracted to higher-status men, so if you can cultivate a high status (or inherent value) for yourself, she will be uncontrollably attracted to you.
3.) Attraction is not a choice, you just have to know what a female attraction triggers are, and appeal to those triggers.
Game matters, and although the game has evolved, it hasn’t died, and it will never die. Game will never die because no matter how difficult our cultural climate makes things for us, at the end of the day we’re still animals. We’re all still animals by nature. Women have a deep-rooted animalistic need for masculinity. For a man that understands how to communicate with them on that primal, sexual frequency.
If you’re truly in the dumps over how difficult you perceive that things gotten, then my best suggestion is to become a digital entrepreneur and move overseas. Go somewhere like Columbia, Eastern Europe, or Southeast Asia. That’s what I’m doing anyway. Although I’ve only very recently gotten fed up with the game climate here in the states.
It’s been years since I struggled with my game, and my ability to attract women. Although there’s always room for improvement, its just not something I’ve truly struggled with for these last 6 years. I’ve kind of ”figured women out” you could say.
You’ll get there one day. It may sound cheesy, but you have to keep a good attitude about your life, your situation, and your future. You cannot allow yourself to get nihilistic, black pill, or discouraged. You can be a little jaded. That is fine. Women are frustrating after all, but you cannot allow your jadedness to outpace you. You’ve got to keep it in check.
Take personal responsibility for your life and your shortcomings. Stop blaming women, society, SJW’s, and Hollywood for your problems. I can appreciate the frustrations that come with all those. At the same time though: I’ve learned that I can only blame them for so much.
As a man, I learned to take personal responsibility for my shortcomings.
As a result: I am now a man entering the prime of his life, unscathed by divorce, financial ruin, or unplanned children. If you HAVE suffered from one of these experiences already, just know that without accepting responsibility for the mistakes you made, it could happen again.
It could always happen again.
If you don’t learn from lessons that life teaches you, you are doomed to repeat them. Use what you have learned, to help other men not make the same mistakes that you did. Help spread the word that I’m relaying here.
Recommended Game Study List (in no particular order):
1.) Paul Janka
5.) Nick Krauser (his DayGame Mastery book is the one I read)
6.) An Introduction To Camera Game (by Goldmund)