How to find your life’s mission and purpose? Well what a question!
I thought this would be a fitting first article for 2018, as this isn’t a topic I have covered yet here at MissionLifeMotion surprisingly.
Also: How and when will you know what your purpose is?
There will no doubt be many guys who will ask me this question.
It is always very interesting to hear how other successful people discovered their mission. This is especially the case, when they didn’t know what their mission was (or had no idea what it was rather).
Autobiographies of successful people, are some of the best reading material you can spend your time on.
No one is going to be fully be able to tell you what your life’s purpose or mission is. There is not a single person on this earth that can answer that question fully for you. Only you can do that. The closest answer to that question I or anyone can give you, is to tell you how we came to discover ours. And you can use the same methods we did, to help yourself arrive at your own conclusion.
Through hearing my story (of one thought, or event leading into another), you can start making your own mental connections (connecting your own dots).
It’s likely that if you read my blog, and/or watch my YouTube channel on a consistent basis, that you and I are like-minded men.
For me, it happened 3 and a half years ago, in the summer of 2014 (June to be exact), when I had my revelation. It hit me pretty suddenly actually, while at my brother’s apartment in Round Rock, Texas. I don’t remember what caused the thought to enter my head, but imagine I had slowly been accumulating thoughts over the previous 3 days that all lead up to this revelation just hitting me.
Its clear to me now that at the time I didn’t know I was looking for anything. But I was.
I was looking for my true calling, for my own self-awareness of it.
At the time, I was selling insurance for another agent as ”Producer”. What this means is I got a cut of the commission on the polices I sold for his agency. I was doing very well, well enough to have my own agency. At that time in my life, I thought selling insurance would be what I would doing for the rest of my life.
I’ve never liked to think about things in terms of ”the rest of my life”, due to the ”finalness” of it. I just don’t like the thought of restricting myself to one thing for the rest of my life (to anything). In any case: because of the great year I had been having at the time (work-wise), and as natural as it was coming to me, I wasn’t too unhappy at that particular time in my life.
Much of the idea I had (of selling insurance permanently as a career) had to do with the agent I had been working for. He was getting into my young, impressionable head, and selling me on the idea of a long career in the insurance business.
He was a natural born salesman, so much so that he believed his own bullshit.
When you truly believe in what you’re telling people, you have the ability to make other people believe it too. This process is what had been happening to me. I had believed in his core belief, that it was the right thing for me business wise.
He may not have started off believing that, but again this guy believed his own bullshit, so eventually he did believe it after harping about it to me enough times.
If something is not truly right for you however, its only a matter of time before the novelty of it wares off. There were aspects of that business that I liked, and those aspects DID come very naturally to me.
However, the real, true reasons I was so successful, had nothing to do with my ”insurance knowledge” or sales knowledge.
There were 2 core reasons why I was successful at my insurance sales gig:
1.) My Work Ethic (there was, and still is, a fire that BURNS inside of me), and…
2.) People Liked And Trusted Me.
That’s it. The answer to life’s questions are usually simpler than people want them to be. Prospective customers liked and trusted me, because I was REAL. I had no hidden agenda. I wasn’t trying to lure people into something that wasn’t right for them, and people could sense that about me. I’ve never been a dishonest person, and I never will be.
It just isn’t in my nature to be dishonest.
Now of course, honesty is not something that can be said for everyone. Some people (as I’m sure you know), are dishonest by nature. Sometimes you can spot them very quickly, and sometimes it can take years to realize someone is not who they claim to be.
When someone truly is honest however, most people (although not everyone), can sense it immediately. This is how it was with me. If I spent time on the phone with someone, or in person, they could usually sense pretty quickly that I wasn’t a fraud. It just radiated off of me. Even in phone conversations it would radiate off of me.
It was for this reason, as well as my drive to become someone important, that drove my success. These same 2 reasons, were also what lead me to discover my true calling (which wasn’t to sell insurance…).
But there were other things too.
In nutshell: I had been realizing that there were about 6 top things in my life that truly fired me up, and inspired me. I even wrote them down, on that hot summer Texas day.
Here’s what they were (in no particular order):
1.) Health And Fitness.
2.) Self-Help (or Self-Improvement), and/or Personal Development.
3.) Attracting and Understanding Women.
4.) Teaching And Educating Other People.
5.) Planning And Organizing.
6.) Traveling (The idea of traveling, and the desire to primarily).
These were the 6 things in my life at that time, that consumed all of my energy and attention, and for good reason.
I was interested in, inspired by, and motivated by each of these 6 topics.
Today, its pretty much the same, although my interest in being a big ladies man/player isn’t what it used to be. I could write 2000 words, under each one of those topics, telling you why they inspired or motivated me, but that’s not the point of this article. What inspire’s and motivates me is not necessarily what will inspire or motivate you.
The point I’m trying to illustrate here, is how I came to the revelation I did on that hot summer day. The day that I discovered specifically, what I was meant to do with my life.
I thought to myself: How can I incorporate these 6 things, into my every day life? While also earning a living off of them (as opposed to just spending time on them after work). You’ll notice that one of the items on my list is: ”Self-Help (or Improvement), and Personal Development”.
Naturally, someone who’s interested in self care is someone who is consuming content via podcasts, YouTube videos, blogs, seminars, or other mediums.
Essentially: information, that’s packaged up, and often sold to people as educational ”How To” products. The thought suddenly occurred to me: Here I am every day, consuming consuming consuming all this content.
I couldn’t even incorporate into my life, all of the knowledge I was consuming (due to the volume of it). I didn’t care though, I loved it, and wanted more, and more, and more, and more.
And wanted to get better, and better, and better….
Better at life. I wanted to be happier and more efficient, especially with regard to:
Health, wealth, & social relationships/friendships.
I thought to myself: Why am I only consuming all this content? If I love it so much, why don’t I just create it? If I love to consume all this content, and I love to improve myself and get better, than surely there must be others out there just like me. Others that will identify with me and want what I have to share.
Which brings us right into one of the other items on my list: ”Leading And Teaching Other People”.
In college I learned that I loved to lead others, motivate them, and inspire them.
I was the pledge marshal of my fraternity. This meant I was in charge of the boot-camp style pledgeship that my fraternity had. I acted sort of like a drill sargent at times, but most of the time I acted as a coach, motivating the young guys to get through the hell we were putting them through.
I sold them on the idea that once they came out the other side, they would be part of an elite group on campus, THE elite group.
Our fraternity was actually the coolest (and most controversial) one on campus. We had the best parties, the hottest girls, the coolest guys, and the most awards. Anyway, I truly had believed all that about our fraternity, and my belief in it made those pledges believe it too.
I would put them through excruciating hell for 3 months, while motivating them to get through it at the same time. Selling them on the idea of what was on the other side, just waiting for them.
What was on the other side was a better life, a richer, more abundant life (even if it was only their life on that campus for the next 3-4 years).
I had an innate ability to inspire people (men specifically) towards a better future.
In remembering all of this from my college years, it finally dawned on me:
I needed to help other men through a Blog & by creating content.
It was how I would earn my living. Going back to what I mentioned earlier in the article, I wanted to know: ”How can I incorporate these 6 things, into my every day life, while earning a living off of them (as opposed to just spending time consuming them after work every day)?”
I realized that I could write blog articles, make videos, and conduct seminars on stage, while leading and teaching others, about the other items on my list. The remaining of which were: Health & Fitness, Attracting & Understanding Women (my 1st blog was about this), and Planning & Organizing.
Further, this would be a Self-Help (or Improvement), & Personal Development blog for men. The last item on my list: ”Traveling’‘, would naturally be something I could do as a successful blog artist. As Victor Pride preaches on his blog all the time: ”Earning a living online gives you the ability to come and go as you please, and be location independent”. So naturally, I knew once I had made it as a blog artist, that traveling and site-seeing would be a main thing I would do.
While doing this traveling, I could also blog about my experiences at the same time.
So I reasoned that starting this blog (or online brand rather), would encompass these 6 items on my list. Remember: these 6 items were what consumed me, everyday of my life. They were the 6 things that fired me up about life, inspired me, and motivated me every day.
And none of them represented negativity, pessimism, or bad energy.
Hint: if you’re wondering how to find your life mission, my advice is to ask yourself what your list of 6 passion items are (everyone’s list is unique to them).
Once you have your list, ask yourself how you can incorporate them into your everyday life, while also offering value to people (or solving their problems), at the same time.
So as you can see here, I’ve really broken this down and de-constructed it for you pretty closely. I want to be completely transparent, about this somewhat easy process I went through. The process that lead to me discovering my life mission. I believe using this same approach that I did, could also help you find your mission.
Remember: I cannot tell you what you were put here for, or what your destiny is, only you can decide that.
And that’s good by the way. After all, do you really want me or someone else to decide what your life’s purpose is?
I didn’t think so.
Only weak minded people want other people to tell them what they’re purpose is. That’s what most jobs are for. Real men pave their own path, they determine their own destiny.
All I can tell you, is how I found my life purpose, and break down the process I went though, to arrive at it.
This article is exactly how I found my life’s mission, my destiny, my calling. I discovered it over time, and through deductive reasoning. Little by little I put the puzzle pieces together, and formed a crystal-clear picture.
In reading this article, you might understand now why its hard for very young men to know what their life’s purpose is. By ”very young men”, what I mean are men between the ages of 16 and 28. They simply have not had enough life experience yet. They don’t know themselves well enough yet. For most men, this changes at or around the age 30.
For me, it took 28 years. 28 years of agony. I say it was agony because in a way, it was. A man is not really a man without a clear image in his mind of what he’s here for. Of what his true ”calling” really is. What his gifts to the world are.
I was born to be leader, I was born to inspire and motivate people.
That is exactly what I’ll be doing here at Mission Life Motion, and in 2018.
So as we begin the new year, I encourage you to start asking yourself: What is it that you were born to do?
Richard Yadon says
Matt, let me first commend you for your obvious dedication and effort to find your purpose. I am willing to bet that as daunting as it seemed when you started, once you arrived at your purpose it was more obvious than you originally thought.
I think all of us have a unique purpose in life. Our passions may change, but embedded deep within us is that purpose. Today we get so many conflicting messages about who we are to be. They come from family, school, employers, friends, media, etc… It really does take the time and effort you demonstrate in your post to find our true calling.
Best to you as you begin this journey!
Richard Yadon | http://www.RichardYadon.com
Max Mitchell says