What Is The Most Optimal Way To Meet Women In 2020?
Why Are men Today Struggling So Much With Women & The Sexual Marketplace?
Why are there communities like MGTOW, or the Black Pill that even exist in the year 2020 and beyond? Why did these groups not exist 20 years ago?
Here are the 4 top reasons why I truly believe these online tribes have formed:
1.) More introverted men, who were raised by single mother’s and had no masculine role models.
2.) The new globalized sexual marketplace.
3.) The combination of technology and feminism is bringing out the worst characteristics of female nature. Look no further than ”OnlyFans” for confirmation of this (hell you don’t even need to look that far, just Instagram alone tells you all you need to know).
OnlyFans is also exposing how pathetic men these days have become. They have sunken to new lows.
These 3 factors are resulting in us men being left with nothing but used up women with notch counts in the triple digits. A society that pushes the feminine agenda, for years now has been enabling (and even encouraging) the worst side of hypergamy to be exercised.
Women are certainly taking advantage of this, without a 2nd thought given to the cultural and societal implications that will this will result in 20, 30, 40 years from now.
Honestly everything can be summed up under these 3 factors right there.
Everything is else specific that you can think of, is basically a subsection of these 3 things. Pornography for example, has only become the issue it has become, because of technology (porn is sub-issue of technology).
All of this has resulted in the need for men to start using something called ”Game”, which started back around the early 2000’s. We’re going to cover all 4 of these, but focus in primary on 2 of them in this article.
SOCIAL CIRCLE GAME:
-This is what most guys do, including ”naturals”. For years, all throughout your parent’s upbringing for example, social circle game ruled, and was all that was needed to find a good woman (either to marry or just to make your girlfriend).
The reason this was the case, was basically because NONE of the 3 issues I just outlined up above, we’re present when your parents (or their parents) we’re growing up. Or at least these things weren’t an issue yet.
I believe there are 2 main, primary factors, that are contributing to reason why social circle game, is no longer the primary method for meeting and attracting women anymore.
Those two reasons are: 1.) technology, and 2.) the resulting new global sexual marketplace.
Technology is making everyone more atomized. People in general have more intimate relationships with their phone nowadays, than they do with other human beings.
This is especially true in America, where people (especially women, are OBSESSED with their goddamn phones).
The new global sexual marketplace on other hand: has brought to the surface, the worst aspects of hypergamy, with every attractive woman nowadays all trying to exercise their desire to end up with the highest quality man (not only that but with all of them doing this at once too).
I’ve spoken about this before, but what this has resulted in is all of society’s highest quality men (the top 20%) are banging 80% the attractive women. The remaining 20%, are the loyal wives that still exist out there (what’s left of them), and/or are the so called ”good girls”. This is why good girls are so hard to come by, because they are either already taken, or they’re just few and far between.
The rise of technology, the resulting death of local communities, and social interaction, have propagated the need for new forms of game to surface.
It’s interesting to note that this process started back in early 2000’s, before the smart phone’s even existed yet. Hell before Tinder even existed.
That just goes to show you, how bad things have gotten.
In the early 2000’s, the rise of the PUA community (and guys like Mystery, David Deangleo, the old RSD), had more to do with the after effects of feminism, than they did with technology or the rising global sexual marketplace however.
For example, David Deangelo’s cocky/funny method of using game, arose as a direct result of the bad behavior of American women, becoming acceptable in society.
”Cocky/funny” game isn’t really even a good strategy to use in Europe I’ve noticed (where I live now). I noticed this not long after I arrived here. The reason for that is because the women over here are still respectful towards men, and respectful towards themselves too (for most part).
The other reason for this is because men still act like men over here, unlike America, where its so hard to find a man with a testosterone level over 400 (which a low by the way). So any man who acts slightly cocky and humorous, comes off as more masculine to American women.
In any case, lets explore the 3 new forms of game that have arisen over the last 15-20 years, and focus on the 2 that I personally think every young (and middle aged) man should focus on, if they want to see the highest quality of success with women:
Not my favorite, but night game was the 1st new type of game that developed in the early 2000’s. It actually started much sooner than that (sort of), there just wasn’t a name for it until about 2004 or so.
Night game is something I think is better suited to younger guys (meaning guys in their 20’s). By the time you hit age 30, a man should be veering his life away from the party scene, and over into business and making money.
I even have some older articles, where I suggest men should get this stage of their life done and over with (out of their system) when they’re young.
There are pro’s and cons to night game to be fair. However I will always stand by my current opinion that there are far more cons. I learned this through 1st hand experience back in my mid-late 20’s (I wish I hadn’t by the way).
- Cons include: too much competition, loud music, having the navigate logistics, cockblocks (girls and guys), alcohol, and its more expensive (cover charges and drinks).
Guys that are smart, either never get involved in night game in the 1st place, OR they just don’t allow alcohol to become a problem. When you’re constantly in an environment that promotes alcohol consumption however, it can become tough after a while to keep it from becoming a problem.
For these reasons, I highly suggest you use the remaining 2 methods to meet women instead:
Online game should always be something you are leveraging, and taking advantage of. The reason for this is because its the year 2020, and online game is huge thing nowadays.
This is for better, or for worse.
This is not something that will be changing anytime soon. If you’re not already on my email list, make sure you get on it now, because for the next 30 days I’m giving away my free PDF Guide ”How To Attract Young, Hot Women Very Quickly Using Online Game”, to any and everyone that opts-into my list.
After the 30 day mark (from Oct. 24th) this is going to from being free, to being something you’ll have to purchase, so get it now while its still free.
Although online game is important (these days), it should not be the ONLY thing that you rely on, for meeting women. You never want to become ”domain dependent” on any one form of game, and that includes online game.
I do believe however, that online game has recently become the 2nd most powerful way of meeting women nowadays (behind day game, which I’ll discuss in a minute).
There are 1 big reason why online game trumps night game, and social circle game:
1.) Efficiency. Online game is even more efficient, than day game is actually.
Despite this being the case, there are however a few powerful advantages to day game that ultimately trump online game (overall) and result in day game being the absolutely best way you can meet women. We’ll discuss those in a minute.
Online Game is much more heavily geared towards looks and appearance, than the other forms of game are.
So if you suffer in the looks department, than I do not advise that you focus as much on online game, at least not until you have addressed any physical areas that you have the ability to improve on.
In other words, lets take your ”weight” for example: your weight is something you have control over. At least START getting that handled 1st (if you have an issue with it), before you invest yourself too much into online game.
There are overweight men who historically have been able to be successful with women (David X is one example), so my thinking is, that at least WHILE you’re losing whatever weight you need to lose, while that process is unfolding you can emulate what those guys did to attract women (see David X).
That way you don’t feel like you have to wait to start interacting with women until you’ve lost all the weight.
Losing weight takes time, and time is something you’re never going to get back. My suggestion to you: is do NOT let your weight problem, stop you from interacting with women, while you’re in the process of losing it. Start talking with and meeting women now (again WHILE you’re losing weight), then by the time you’ve lost it all, you’ll see your results with women basically skyrocket (compared to what you’ll be used to).
This will build you up positive momentum. Here’s a guide to get you started on the weight loss process, and here’s another one.
There is one very important thing you need to always remember about meeting attractive women online (and this is a little sneak peak into my free PDF guide you’ll get when you opt-in to my email list), and that’s this:
Crafting an attention-grabbing, intriguing and high-value online Bio, will do absolute wonders for you.
This is especially true if you’re not quite as easy on the eyes, for whatever reason.
Online dating is 1 of the legs of the chair (or of the tripod). It helps hold your dating life together, its the icing on the cake, its just not the actual cake itself. Never forget that.
Online dating is here to stay, so why not leverage and take advantage of it? This is especially true if you’re a good looking dude, and/or are in great physical shape.
You are effectively leaving money on the table if you meet the criteria I’m describing here, and you’re not utilizing online dating.
Now let’s discuss the last (and best) form of game, even in the year 2020 and beyond:
Day game should be the foundation, and the cornerstone of your game, especially if you’re at, or over the age of 28.
Its at least by this age, where you want to make the transition away from night game, over to day game. Or if you just want to avoid night game altogether, then I don’t blame you.
Night game is not the beast that it once was. Bottle service changed the game, and started to create a hierarchal type of environment, within many night clubs.
Now of course what I’m describing here, is only really the case when it comes to actual nightclubs (not bars), but let’s face it: nightclubs are a fairly big part of the nightlife scene.
What I mean by that is its hard (if have you a circle of friends in a big city that like to go out at night) to just completely avoid nightclubs.
In any case, the older you get: the more appealing day game will become to you. At least this is how it goes for most guys. There are some key things you need to keep mind when it comes to Day Game.
Here they are:
1.) Day Game is MUCH more effective, when you live in a big city. The reason for this is that it allows for anonymity. The big city attracts young, attractive women, and A LOT of them. Big cities constantly have new women filing into them on a daily basis.
2.) Anonymity also allows these same women to be more promiscuous. Think about it: It’s much easier for sex occur when not everyone constantly knows your business.
The Best Cities For Day-Game:
-New York City: NYC is by far, the absolute best city you can live in for the Day Game type of game model. COVID-19
–San Diego, California
-(parts) of Los Angelis California
-Miami, Florida (the women are tougher to game here however)
–Belgrade, Serbia (pro’s and cons however)
–Karkiv, Poland (some would Warsaw too)
-Medellin, Columbia (much more traditional women however)
THE 4 BEST PARTS OF THE WORLD FOR A MAN TO LIVE:
- Southeast Asia
- South America (Columbia, Brazil, Paraguay, Peru)
- Eastern Europe (Ukraine, Serbia, Romania, Poland, Montenegro, Greece, Bulgaria)
- South Africa (Capetown)
For Day-Game: Coffee shops are king.
Once Covid-19 dies down, just remember that coffee shops are the KING day game spot for meeting women.
Other good areas include:
- Outlet (outdoor) shopping malls or promenades,
- Parks (are great camera game: check out MacTheDay Gamer, and Goldmund for how to do camera day-game),
- The street (one with A LOT of pedestrian traffic),
- Whole Foods 0r other organic grocery stores,
- The Subway
- Retail shopping
Go to Google, and type in: ”open air shopping (name of your City)”. This is a little tip to help get your started. The shopping districts are where all the women are guys.
3.) Situational Openers are best.
My opener: ”Hello….I just wanted to come say hi, I’m Matt…”
If you’re in a foreign country (which I am now), then you can lead with: ”I hope you speak English” then go right into it: ”I just wanted to come say hi…..I’m Matt”.
Make sure when you say I hope you speak English, you say it as a statement, instead of as a question.
Taking an improv comedy class is not a bad idea, especially if you don’t already have a good sense of humor. If you do, then that may not be necessary. If you don’t though, then that’s something you really need to work on.
A very important thing to always remember:
A woman telling you no when you ask for her phone number, is not the same thing as her ”rejecting” you. Stop taking everything so goddamn personally. You are not the center of the universe, neither is she.
Brush it off your shoulder and move on. Some approaches just don’t ”stick”. A man goes after what he wants. That doesn’t mean he’ll get what he wants, it means he goes after what he wants. Going after it is the 1st and main thing that matters. It’s not all that matters, but its the 1st thing that matters.
Without the ability to take action on what you want, nothing else I’ve even discussed here today matters. So when you’re out and you see an attractive woman that you’d like to talk to, its your duty as a man to walk up and talk to her. That doesn’t mean she won’t have a boyfriend, that doesn’t mean she’ll be available, and it doesn’t even men you’ll be her type.
Oftentimes, you won’t be. That’s not what matters here, what matters is that you try. What matters is that as a man, you took action on something you saw that you wanted. Men take action.
I’ll keep repeating that until you guys get that.